Self Care: 7 People You Just Can’t Help

“You’re a Queen Mother,” he told me, “inside of you is a medicine that will help many people!”  Those were the words of the Ghanaian Shaman with whom I met to give me insight into my life’s path.  I cried—not just because of that, but because he also spoke about my grandmother, with whom I […]

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How to Be a Night Owl– And STILL Win!

I have been made to feel subpar for a character trait that I simply cannot change for far too long—today I’m fighting back!  Okay, that’s not exactly true—I’ve been in my own, subconscious, mini rebellion against both the sunrise and the dawn for as long as I can remember; it’s just that today I’ve come […]

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The Mental Battle: An Escape From Perfectionism

The entire crowd was screaming out of control, only it wasn’t for me—it was because I’d failed—fallen, lost control and let it show—I’ll never forget that day.  I was either in 6th or 7th grade at the time, on stage in front of an auditorium full of kids, dancing with two other girls.  We’d put together a […]

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With Self Awareness comes Harsh Truth!

Picture this—sophomore year of high school, me and a group of friends sitting in the cafeteria across from a more casual friend—for the sake of anonymity, let’s call her Rosalee.  Now, by 90’s standards, which would include everything hot on BET videos and MTV Raps, Rosalee was the epitome of what one would consider fly: […]

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Love and Natural Hair– Tips and Tricks!

I have been lye free for over 15 years, but this is my second time at bat.  The first time I went “natural” had nothing to do with trying to be healthy– I hadn’t read up on how detrimental the chemicals were, nor was I making any “pro-black” statements—I’d dyed my hair strawberry blond during […]

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How to Be Confident While Loosing Weight!

  Most people pack on the weight in college, they call it the freshman 15; I was different, in college I actually dropped weight and was the thinnest I’d ever been.  I didn’t eat any pork or red meat, my beverage of choice was water (excluding occasional alcoholic trysts) and I rarely ever ate any […]

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