Oh Black Man, Where art Thou?

Before I address the crux of what this post is about, I need to clarify something first—I am an absolute fan of Black Men; from their physique, to their strength, to their charisma, to the way they move, love, and laugh—all these things keep me in constant awe of them, plus, growing up I had […]

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Love and Natural Hair– Tips and Tricks!

I have been lye free for over 15 years, but this is my second time at bat.  The first time I went “natural” had nothing to do with trying to be healthy– I hadn’t read up on how detrimental the chemicals were, nor was I making any “pro-black” statements—I’d dyed my hair strawberry blond during […]

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It’s Okay to Leave Your Spouse Behind!

My husband and I are joined at the hip—figuratively speaking.  If we’re in the house at the same time, both of our phones ring when someone calls. We know each other’s passwords for everything—we share all bank accounts.  At one time we even shared a facebook account (it was my account that I allowed him to […]

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Avoid These Friendship Mistakes …..

Today I would consider myself a pretty good friend to the people in my circle, but I’ll admit this wasn’t always the case.  In junior high school I lost my very best friend after ditching her at a party to go off with my boyfriend—epic friendship fail!  In college, I put a serious strain on […]

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Yes, I have 5 kids! Why is that a problem?

If you’ll let me, I’ll describe for you a look of horror I know all too well– come with me, virtually that is– to a chipotle in anywhere town USA, and examine closely the face of any one of the several workers standing behind the counter when I darken the door with all of my […]

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The Evolution of Playing While Black!

When I was growing up we always played outside— in the summer we stayed out until the street lights hit, then we took the party to the porch.  Back then kids weren’t bombarded with activities and camps; we weren’t allowed to sit around playing video games. Call me a throwback mama, If you will, but […]

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7 Ways to Avoid Negative People, Now!

If I was charged with the task of ranking my pet peeves, negative people would definitely be first on the list.  Although individuals in this category run the spectrum, for the sake of time, let me outline a few! The first type are who I like to call, “The Everyone Sucks but Me” kind of […]

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Are You Too Good for Him (or Her)? 7 Ways to tell!

Somewhere many of us got the notion that it wasn’t cool to acknowledge being better than someone for the sake seeming humble or, simply not wanting to brag.  My view is just the opposite: I say that we need to get in the habit of being confident in where we shine in comparison to others, […]

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How to Be Confident While Loosing Weight!

  Most people pack on the weight in college, they call it the freshman 15; I was different, in college I actually dropped weight and was the thinnest I’d ever been.  I didn’t eat any pork or red meat, my beverage of choice was water (excluding occasional alcoholic trysts) and I rarely ever ate any […]

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