Self Care: 7 People You Just Can’t Help

“You’re a Queen Mother,” he told me, “inside of you is a medicine that will help many people!”  Those were the words of the Ghanaian Shaman with whom I met to give me insight into my life’s path.  I cried—not just because of that, but because he also spoke about my grandmother, with whom I […]

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How to Be a Night Owl– And STILL Win!

I have been made to feel subpar for a character trait that I simply cannot change for far too long—today I’m fighting back!  Okay, that’s not exactly true—I’ve been in my own, subconscious, mini rebellion against both the sunrise and the dawn for as long as I can remember; it’s just that today I’ve come […]

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Message From Mo’Nique: Have an Open Marriage, Don’t Cheat!

There is this unspoken rule that couples have when they marry, it goes a little something like this: “I (insert spouse’s name here), agree to only ever have sex with you (insert other spouse’s name here), because I will only ever want to have sex with you, but, if I ever do  have sex with […]

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Please Don’t Go There! What happens when mothers Compete.

Oh, the wonderful world of Competition-Land—have you visited lately? It’s a special place where mothers gather, in groups of at least two or more, to do the male equivalent of the penis swing; only women don’t have penises, which makes it even more annoying and  bizarre. Today, while I sat waiting for one of my children […]

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Dating and Relationships: 20 Questions to know by the 3rd Date!

When I was around 19 or 20, I dated a guy for weeks without ever knowing his home phone number or even where he lived.  Whenever we’d go out, he’d drive us about an hour away, to the major city nearby—which I looked at as both exciting and fun.  That was until the day his […]

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Love and Marriage: 7 Ways that Hollywood Lied!

In so many instances, love stories on television betray the minds of people who watch, by frequently displaying picturesque views of how couples mange to both fall in and stay in love.  Having been in my own marriage for the past 15 years, I’ve come to see that often times, when romantic unions are shown, […]

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The Mental Battle: An Escape From Perfectionism

The entire crowd was screaming out of control, only it wasn’t for me—it was because I’d failed—fallen, lost control and let it show—I’ll never forget that day.  I was either in 6th or 7th grade at the time, on stage in front of an auditorium full of kids, dancing with two other girls.  We’d put together a […]

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Do You NEED a Husband? 10 Reasons Why the Answer Might be YES!

Is “singleness” a thing?  And by thing, I mean, in the same vain as how people take pride in, let’s say, being stylish, or tech savvy, or entrepreneurial maybe?  It’s been something I’ve wondered for the past several years, as I’ve encountered more and more women who seem to rally behind this notion of being […]

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5 Reasons You Might Need to Apologize to Your kids!

If you know me, and we’ve ever had a real conversation about my children, it’s probably come up that over the years, I’ve often had to apologize to them a lot, for a whole host of things.  I accepted early on my slim chance of ever attaining mother of any year, and decided instead to […]

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