Self Care: 7 People You Just Can’t Help

“You’re a Queen Mother,” he told me, “inside of you is a medicine that will help many people!”  Those were the words of the Ghanaian Shaman with whom I met to give me insight into my life’s path.  I cried—not just because of that, but because he also spoke about my grandmother, with whom I […]

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Message From Mo’Nique: Have an Open Marriage, Don’t Cheat!

There is this unspoken rule that couples have when they marry, it goes a little something like this: “I (insert spouse’s name here), agree to only ever have sex with you (insert other spouse’s name here), because I will only ever want to have sex with you, but, if I ever do  have sex with […]

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Dating and Relationships: 20 Questions to know by the 3rd Date!

When I was around 19 or 20, I dated a guy for weeks without ever knowing his home phone number or even where he lived.  Whenever we’d go out, he’d drive us about an hour away, to the major city nearby—which I looked at as both exciting and fun.  That was until the day his […]

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Love and Marriage: 7 Ways that Hollywood Lied!

In so many instances, love stories on television betray the minds of people who watch, by frequently displaying picturesque views of how couples mange to both fall in and stay in love.  Having been in my own marriage for the past 15 years, I’ve come to see that often times, when romantic unions are shown, […]

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Do You NEED a Husband? 10 Reasons Why the Answer Might be YES!

Is “singleness” a thing?  And by thing, I mean, in the same vain as how people take pride in, let’s say, being stylish, or tech savvy, or entrepreneurial maybe?  It’s been something I’ve wondered for the past several years, as I’ve encountered more and more women who seem to rally behind this notion of being […]

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Why Married Couples Need Their “Thing”!

Many days, my husband and I are truly like ships passing in the night—though I swore years ago, when I was at least a decade younger and a lifetime dumber, that it would never be.   “He would come in from working the night shift, eat, shower, then get some sleep to do it all over […]

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“No New Friends!” 7 Reasons to Reconsider!

Now-a-days, it’s a common phrase to hear, “no new friends”, especially since the rapper Drake made it popular in a song by the same title.  I have to be honest and admit that although I’ve heard people repeat this saying dozens of times, I only recently listened to the song.  The lyrics, which are somewhat […]

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“Mirror, Mirror– What’s the Truth?”

Picture this—sophomore year of high school, me and a group of friends sitting in the cafeteria across from a more casual friend—for the sake of anonymity, let’s call her Rosalee.  Now, by 90’s standards, which would include everything hot on BET videos and MTV Raps, Rosalee was the epitome of what one would consider fly: […]

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Are You A Good Friend? Some Friendship Mistakes you Might Be Making…..

Today I would consider myself a pretty good friend to the people in my circle, but I’ll admit this wasn’t always the case.  In junior high school I lost my very best friend after ditching her at a party to go off with my boyfriend—epic friendship fail!  In college, I put a serious strain on […]

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