No, You Aren’t a Better Woman and NO, He’s Not Gonna Change!

Occasionally, on social media– let me rephrase– quite often on social media, I stumble across a meme, a quote, or a post that makes me stop and pause– sometimes I literally scratch my head– but not for the reasons you might think.  I wish it were because these blurb’s are insightful, or provoking with their candor […]

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Stop Raising Baby Mamas and Daddies! 3 Ways to Break the Cycle Now.

Okay, you might be asking yourself, is it really possible to raise a child to become a baby mama or daddy?  Like, are parents actually out here training their kids to be solo-dolo moms and dads, for God sakes?  Or, better yet, I know a few of you are rolling your eyes, thinking, “here comes […]

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Hollywood Rules—7 Lessons to Love by!

Most of us know that what we see on the big screen is just for entertainment; we aren’t foolish enough to think that movies can teach us anything about human nature, or morals, or about life.  Right? Of course we aren’t!  As intelligent beings, we understand that knowledge and wisdom comes from our parents, and from schools […]

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It’s Not Your Looks? 6 Reasons Men Find You Unattractive!

So, men are visual creatures, huh?  At least that’s the story women have been sold for eons and by the current state of the modern day female, it would appear as if we have truly bought into that narrative.  And why shouldn’t we.  You can’t open up your phone or computer, turn on your television, […]

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5 reasons I have the Luxury to Sleep in. Can you afford it?

On a typical day, I get up when I feel like it.  As of late, that falls between 9:30 and 10.  My baby girl will sometimes be snuggled next to me, and my other children will likely be lounging in their beds.  No one except my husband and sometimes, my youngest son, is an early […]

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I Don’t Like You– and that’s okay!

Let me tell you about my mama, she is one of the most endearing people you’ll ever meet.  She’s sweet, kind, sensitive, loving and will give you the duds right off her back.  She’s a saint; people who who know my mother personally will attest to that.  They might also divulge that her home is […]

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How to Handle Being Dumped—By a friend!

You would have thought I stole her boyfriend, well her husband rather, or left the backdoor of her townhouse open and let her dog run away.  I could see if I talked about her kid, or stole from her purse (do people still do that anymore), but I didn’t do any of those things; nothing […]

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Self Care: 7 People You Just Can’t Help

“You’re a Queen Mother,” he told me, “inside of you is a medicine that will help many people!”  Those were the words of the Ghanaian Shaman with whom I met to give me insight into my life’s path.  I cried—not just because of that, but because he also spoke about my grandmother, with whom I […]

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Message From Mo’Nique: Have an Open Marriage, Don’t Cheat!

There is this unspoken rule that couples have when they marry, it goes a little something like this: “I (insert spouse’s name here), agree to only ever have sex with you (insert other spouse’s name here), because I will only ever want to have sex with you, but, if I ever do  have sex with […]

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Dating and Relationships: 20 Questions to know by the 3rd Date!

When I was around 19 or 20, I dated a guy for weeks without ever knowing his home phone number or even where he lived.  Whenever we’d go out, he’d drive us about an hour away, to the major city nearby—which I looked at as both exciting and fun.  That was until the day his […]

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